I think that we should foster creative thinking, organization of community and various other "strong will" type things, but I think it's most important to learn that we are never the ultimate authority of our lives and the lives of others. God holds that position and if we can't submit to other humans having authority within our lives, I hold out little hope for us giving even greater authority in our lives to God.
Maybe I'm pessimistic, but God placed people in our lives to occasionally tell us what to do and how to do it, but if we just have ourselves as the ultimate authority, then we call God a liar.
I'm thinking about all of this, because I asked Hannah to do something last night. Something that there was no way to enforce, but she understood that it needed to be done this morning. As I was sitting, having my quiet time, she came in and she'd done it. No excuses, no bitterness, no anger, just obedience. It gave me great hope. Not for our parent child relationship but for her relationship with God. She's proven that she can be faithful with a few talents, may she be trusted to carry for even more.